“Some lessons in life can’t be taught. They simply have to be learned”
Have you ever made a decision and then shortly afterwards, completely regret it? Like you replay it in your mind a million times, thinking “why was I so stupid?! That was an awful decision.”
My mom’s birthday was last week and to celebrate it my immediate family got together at this cute inn along the Chesapeake Bay. (it’s my mom’s happy place…mine too). The inn has its own private beach with kayaks and paddleboards and is so peaceful. The grounds are beautifully landscaped with all sorts of flowers. All worries wash away when I’m there.
As everyone gets older and busy with their own lives, it’s rare that we all can get together as a family, so I was definitely excited to see everyone. Well long story short, by the time my brothers and wives arrived, I was already laying out on the beach. As my mom checked into the place, my one brother and his wife came to help me walk back to our place. As I started to stand up from nearly falling asleep in the sun, my brother asked me if I wanted to put shoes on before walking. Being stupid, in a rush, and not thinking, I replied no, walking barefoot. After a couple of minutes of walking, I realized this was a bad decision and the bottoms of my feet started to burn. By the time we reached our place, my feet had burned so much that I couldn’t even stand. Both feet had burn marks but part of my right foot turned black like I had stepped in volcanic ash. Trying to be optimistic, I told everyone it was no big deal but inside I was freaking out. It looked as though it was 3rd degree burn on my right foot. I was so disappointed in myself, how could I be so careless?! I had ruined my feet. Upon finally sitting down in the kitchen and seeing this, we did what any intelligent person would do and “Googled” how to treat burned feet. Since then, my feet have been wrapped with gauze, covered to avoid infection, and occasionally soaked in epsom salt.
During this week while regretting my decision and being disappointed in myself, I tried to remember what was going through my mind as I made this terrible decision to not wear shoes. My first thought, was really stupid. I had decided that it would look totally ridiculous to walk in a bathing suit and shoes. As I thought of this later in the week, my only thoughts afterwards were “what kind of horrible logic is this?! It’s was a beach! No one cares how you look and while at the beach, most people throw all fashion sense out the window!” My second thought was that of being stubborn and determined to keep walking despite the pain. I could have easily asked my brother to give me a piggy-back ride or to get my shoes because my feet hurt. But no, I was stubborn and stupid!
Within a couple of days after the burn, my left foot started to heal and return to normal but my right foot was still black. Although I had protested going to the doctor, thinking it would be useless, I decided to make an appointment and see if they knew how to save my foot. The fact that part of my right foot was black bothered me but it didn’t hurt as much anymore, making me think maybe the burn had affected my feeling somehow, which really made me start to panic.
Well the doctor didn’t prove useless because they said the big black spot is just a really big blood blister and will probably go away in a couple of weeks. I was so relieved to hear that news and to know my foot wouldn’t have to be amputated or permanently look like I stepped in black tar.
Moral of the story, when walking on hot pavement, always wear your shoes. Who cares if your shoes don’t match your outfit, protecting your feet is much more important. You can always buy new shoes, you can’t always buy new feet. And if you’re in pain or need help, stop, tell someone, and readjust, there is no sense in hiding the truth.
Be determined not stubborn.
Determination is positive, is light, and will take you far. It’s a willingness to change as needed, keeping an open mind.
Stubborn is a heavy feeling, a refusal to budge, a negative, closed mind and will take you nowhere.