“Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired.”
“Love your neighbor as yourself”. That’s so much easier said than done.
The other week, I was reflecting on this golden rule and how much I fail to follow it in my own life. I always start off the day strong, determined to treat everyone the way I want to be treated but inevitably, someone always comes along that seems to test the limits of my patience. They complain too much, are judgmental, rude, won’t get out of my face, or absolutely drive me insane. How easy it is to react in a negative manner. To choose anger over love.
Someone once told me “It is better to be a friend than to have a friend.” For me, this simple phrase contains so much wisdom. Although it doesn’t directly state anything about love, I feel like it can be applied to how we should approach every relationship in our lives. That it is better to be kind than to only receive kindness. It is better to love than to be loved.
In those moments of feeling annoyed and frustrated, it’s so easy to respond in anger. To be rude, inconsiderate, to gossip, and to judge. But it’s in those moments I try to remind myself of the golden rule and put myself in their shoes. Only then can I fully understand. And it is in understanding, having patience, and having compassion for one another that we take baby steps towards love.
“What you must do is love your neighbor as yourself. There is no one who knows your many faults better than you! But you love yourself notwithstanding. And so you must love your neighbor, no matter how many faults you see in them.”